How far do we push it as women to please our men. From that little tattoo with his initials. To changing my whole appearance to cater to his needs. We women are drastic when we are in love. Speaking from a woman’s point of view, few will say they never went to the extremes for love. For example he will meet you with your flat chest, but if his fantasy is a Pamela Anderson type and you have the means to make it possible, surely we don’t mind go do those breast implants. Hear me out, I’m not saying if you as a woman want big breast don’t go out and get them. My emphasize is, ” you did it to make him happy” are you happy though? As I said before that ” our previous relationships do leave a mark on us” it’s the nature of the beast, but rather be scares of “self pleasure” than regrets and painful shackles you can’t break free from. I don’t believe in loosing your morals and values because of what others have done to you. Whatever you put yourself through, let it be ” free will “. I watch lot of shows like Botched and it’s hectic out there. Women are scar for life, because of body adjustments they did in the heat of the moment. I know we live in a very catalogue society, men always want what they can’t give, in a perfect man’s world women will be, standing or bending naked and holding a bottle of beer. My wish for women is for us to be accountable for our actions. We are beautiful, smart, intelligent beings, if only we could stop belittling ourselves. If you going to get a tatto, why not both, hey? If he wants you to get bigger breast and butt for his birthday. For yours you want a penis reduction of enlargement or longer orgasms. It’s not a war, nope, it’s getting to a common ground, maybe some greener pastures. Going to surgery for a Nip and Tuck to boost your self esteem and confident, yeah! Go for it, some are not born with natural beauty, a helping hand is needed. Maybe surgical doctors are there for that reason. As women we need to know we only have this one body, our temple, YOLO or not, respecting it is the highest love we can give ourselves. If the trend is “yellow bones” skin bleaching is no problem, because you want to fit in and be validated by society or sick twisted male dominated beauty industry. No sister you will be left with the medical bills and conditions, of which in majority of the cases are irretrievably. Then was it all worth it? Yes, I know it’s easy said then done, fall in love but don’t loose yourself. At still on YOLO, we all going to die, but don’t be rotten to your death. Live with a purpose, life is wonderful when you living for yourself. And the definition of society about beauty is not what we should be looking out in fellow humans sounds philosophical, but inner beauty. I wants read in one of my friend’s timeline, something on the lines ” the ugly ones are beautiful ” and it got me thinking, we do live in a judgmental society if somebody does not fit into our society picture of perfectionist, we quick to judge, so at the same time. It might not be a man who makes you do some unspeakable deeds to your body, but peer pressure. Make sure you in on it. Tongue rings, belly rings the list goes on, hair styles or big butts. Every generation will go through those trends, but not all trends are worth to be worshiped in your temple.