We all know how liberated we are as women lately, we want the same privileges as men. Most of the times we fight too hard and for issues which don’t really matter. It’s great to be one of the boys and drink, party and go on be ratchet every weekend, we fought for equality but, when is it enough for a lady and hang the gloves. As women at some point we all want to settle down make babies and bake pie in the kitchen (my thought, no offend ladies if you not in that picture). My point is, it is very seldom you find guys marrying the girls whom they were strolling taverns late at night with. At the end of the day, he wants someone he can take home to meet his family and a mother of his children in the future. Well everything is fun in the beginning but do you know when to pull out as a lady, and groom yourself for the next stage of life. We hear lot of stories of mothers neglecting their babies for a night out. Total immaturity and my argument is , you can’t be the best at everything, multitasking don’t grasp it when it comes to “having to tone it done especially for the sake of children “. We will forever crucify men because of the treatment we receive from them, but can you honestly go hang at dodgy shady bars, and hope that you won’t kiss few frogs. You stay in the swamp and keep on kissing frogs and toads the list goes on, well maybe your prince charm is not in that swamp you got comfortable in. When is it time to swim into the sea and be a mermaid ? See ladies you need to plan you future, you won’t stay young and beautiful all your life, and you won’t be the center of parties, somewhere the spotlight do fade and then it’s maturity time. What then ? Do you become the old cocktail cougar, who still want to relive her past ( stuck in a past decade). Ladies it’s not wrong to get old and not be available for all social events, choose which events to attend with your plan in mind. “Birds of the same feathers, flock together” so attract the right attention and if it happened you got a child during your teenage years, know very well you jumped a certain stage in your life which you will never get back, so stop being selfish and want it all, you can’t have it. Just be the best parent to your child. Your friends will always come to to you every Monday after a hectic weekend, to cool off steam and brag or gloat, what a wonderful weekend they had. Yes the heart will wish for that freedom, but being a mommy must come first. I was the first one in my circle of friends to have a baby and stayed on her own. Before the baby on weekends we would get together and plan some entertainment, well mostly I was the “IT” girl among my friends, I had my own money, so for me if I invite you over, my hospitality will be on point. The minute I became a mommy friends will call and send invites, and most I declined(no baby sitter was my excuse ) six months as a mommy, I was on my own, no friends. I didn’t feel bad I was growing with my baby and before I knew I was married. Life continue and now all of my friends who were party animals, are stressing about their biological clocks ticking and looking for any thing which might seem like a “meaningful relationship ” and most have children from more than two different fathers. While I still have my foot in my mouth, ladies the is absolutely nothing wrong with being, fun, fearless, ratchet and wild, but some of the men behaviors don’t do us any good at the end of the day, but a social stigma.