Too comfortable to care,As I’m sitting here watching every couple going pass. It’s easy to tell which are on a date and who are “old married couples”.People who are on dates, are dressed to kill. Best foot forward even smell the perfume, and make up done. “old married couple” well firstly we don’t call it sloppy or clumsy, no it’s comfortable dressing. Make up, well my hair is clean and I’m clean, no time for make up , a lipgloss will do. Is it true that once we get married, we as women relax, into the relationship , we stop grooming ourselves, let me not mention, lingerie shopping. No more sexy, seducing ,rip it with your teeth off my body. No, a high waist will do me just fine. No more g string, full bum and stomach supporting underwear. We are fighting against gravity or we just too comfortable to care?
Any way I’m sure most of this couples are not even on dates, we came out for shopping or sorting out family business. When do I get time for myself, it’s the children pulling my hair and the husband emotional support or whatever support he might need at that moment .and you get men who will cHeat with this beautiful well intact ladies. While you busy making a stable family foundation. I understand when we were still dating I did not have much responsibilities, and most couples stay together when married, so before marriage I’m still on my own or at home, I have enough time to groom and beautify myself and maybe I had enough money to at least visit a spar once a month, waxing maybe. Now,if I don’t DIY myself , I will be stuck with bush administration . I know we all had how we suppose to share the weight as married couples. Nobody needs to sink, it doesn’t happen like that. Men are oversize grown children and will always need that mommy figure to run to. And we women by nature we are natures , we always want to fix you up. (Fix up and upgrading ,whichever comes first) do you think Barak Obama, would have run for an American presidency if it was not for his wife. Or should we bring it home, President Zuma, he needed a whole bunch of cheerleaders to encourage him. And surely it works. So where do I get time for myself. When I’m supporting everybody. I’m not saying we don’t get to rest as married women but, you can’t expect me to look like a Barbie doll everyday. I don’t have time for that . It’s not selfish for a woman to demand your time, send the husband and the children away and have that “me time” not me time to stay in pjs on a couch eating popcorn and watching omnibus of the weeks soapies. Wash, get dress and get out of the house. Have a life beside the family life, join a gym, book club, yoga classes. These so much to do with that time away from your regular lifestyle, and it will build you more, won’t feel like your job is to take care of babies. But you also have a life out of the family. I’m writing from an experienced hand. When I got married my circle of friends grew smaller till I didn’t have friends anymore. My husband was my everything . Sweet, hey. No, your partner can’t be your everything , get a life. What happened when your partner is too exhausted from being your everything, and goes out of the house for some peace of mind ?