When I say, I do.
In marriage women take the most heat, we are the ones who believe ” my marriage must be perfect. Perfect ???? (I’m not talking about “our perfect wedding” ). In marriage we go in with high hopes, great expectations, prince charmie sweeping you off on his horse back to your castle and you live happily ever after. Maybe it might be so, somewhere, but let me talk about what I know.
The first two years of marriage are great, everything is wonderful (getting to know each other more, everything still fascinating (including those little things which will be annoying and irritating along the years, if you manage to pass the stage of “boredom ” with each other. Marriage is fun and exciting when children are not included or involve , not that I’m saying children are party poopers in a marriage No! But it is less responsibilities. We can still have time for each other. When you were still dating, it was a world of “the two of you, love birds walking on lovers lane seeing rainbows and unicorns in the sky,and holding hands)
Now you are living together. It’s reality time. More like “Big Brother” . We married now,
How do we share responsibilities ?
How do we come to common grounds?
How do we communicate ?
How do we plan our future?
(And the ticking time bomb💣💣💣💣) How do we discuss our financial behaviors?
How do we unite and protect, what is ours?
How do we deal with siblings, friends, in-laws, relatives, the list goes on, till those annoying exes, who will still want to make sure, he is really married and not with me.
If the “perfect wedding” was planned and budgeted on a loan, what happens now when in the marriage, one of you gets retrenched and only one is supporting both. Bills pile up, (what joy is that wedding album bringing to you, how we screwed up and spent all that money, for pictures). Don’t get me wrong, if you can afford it, Splash it, flaunt it, (but don’t try to keep up with the Motshepes if you know, we are centnaires🍽🍽🍽🍽. Know your strength, limits, capabilities in whatever stage you are, in your life.
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